You may be reading this as a single man or woman hoping that your Ms. or Mr. Right will come along any day now. Or, you may be a mom, dad, grandparent, or friend who wants to be equipped to help guide those close to you in how they should choose a spouse.
The first thing that you should remember is that you shouldn’t look for love. You already have total and complete love in God. Looking for someone to love you is a sign that you are not satisfied in God and need to draw closer to Him. That’s why as Christians we need to sit back and wait for God to bring the right person into our lives.
Next, you need to remember what the Lord says about love in 1 Corinthians 13.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
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If you are wondering whether someone is Mr. or Ms. Right, compare their actions to this verse. If they do not live according to this, they do not live in love.
Another good thing to remember is that if you are meant to be with someone, then the way that God designed you to be will work with who God designed them to be. You should never have to change to fit within someone’s love. If God wants you to be with someone, then you will not need to pretend to be someone else to gain their affections.
Above all else, God needs to be the center of the relationship. A sure sign that you are not supposed to be with someone is that you spend less and less time with God. However, a good and right relationship should draw you both closer to God. Have you ever heard the triangle example of a relationship? The closer the man and woman get to God, the closer they get to each other.
Be sure to stay in continual conversation with God. He cares about what you care about and wants to know what you desire in your future spouse. Consider keeping a journal of spouse prayers. Pray for their faith and the relationship you desire to have with them.
You are most ready for marriage when you are the closest to God. You cannot support another in their faith unless you are in a right space with God. Don’t look for love. Let God be your love and then He can bless you with Mr. or Ms. Right.
